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- Title: Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve
- Author: Matthew Hussey
- Narrator: Matthew Hussey
- Length: 08:00:00
- Version: Abridged
- Release Date: 09/04/2013
- Publisher: HarperAudio
- Genre: Health & Wellness, Marriage & Family
- ISBN13: 9.78E+12
The first time I pressed play on Matthew Hussey’s “Get the Guy”, I was on a bumpy bus ride through the Peruvian Andes. The irony wasn’t lost on me – here I was, a traveling bachelor listening to a relationship guide while surrounded by staggering natural beauty. But as Hussey’s warm British accent filled my headphones, I realized this wasn’t just another dating manual. This was a masterclass in human connection, narrated with the intimate wisdom of a campfire storyteller.
Hussey’s voice immediately disarms you. There’s a comforting cadence to his narration that reminds me of those long storytelling nights in Oaxaca – no preaching, no gimmicks, just one person sharing hard-won truths with genuine care. His performance elevates the material beyond typical self-help fare, turning psychological insights into something approaching oral history. You can hear the smile when he shares playful anecdotes about his matchmaking clients, and the thoughtful pauses when discussing deeper emotional concepts.
The content itself unfolds like a well-planned journey. Hussey structures his advice like a seasoned travel writer plotting an itinerary – first helping you pack your emotional baggage (what to bring and what to leave behind), then guiding you through the terrain of modern dating with clear landmarks. His ‘Core Four’ framework (Be Happy, Be Vulnerable, Be a Challenge, Be a Woman) resonated particularly strongly with me as someone who’s observed courtship rituals across dozens of cultures. The principles hold universal truth, whether you’re navigating New York dating apps or meeting someone at a village festival in Portugal.
What sets this audiobook apart is Hussey’s rare dual perspective. Like an anthropologist who’s gone native (and then come back to explain the culture), he decodes male psychology while never losing sight of female empowerment. His chapter on ‘Creating Attraction’ should be required listening – it finally helped me understand why my most meaningful connections always began with shared laughter rather than calculated flirtation. The advice about ‘being interested rather than interesting’ struck me as profoundly true, recalling how the best travel experiences come from genuine curiosity rather than performance.
The audio production deserves special mention. Unlike some author-narrated works that sound like dry lectures, Hussey delivers his material with the energy of a TED Talk crossed with an intimate confession. The pacing allows space to absorb ideas without losing momentum. I particularly appreciated how his vocal inflections highlight the difference between ‘playing games’ (which he discourages) and ‘playing’ in the sense of keeping interactions light and joyful.
Some listeners might wish for more diverse relationship models beyond heterosexual norms, and at times the advice leans slightly toward traditional gender dynamics. Yet Hussey’s fundamental principles about self-worth and emotional availability transcend specific orientations. His emphasis on ‘becoming the right person’ rather than just ‘finding the right person’ echoes universal wisdom traditions I’ve encountered worldwide.
For those familiar with Mark Manson’s “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*uck*, Hussey offers a complementary perspective – less about philosophical detachment, more about engaged vulnerability. Where Manson teaches radical acceptance, Hussey provides a roadmap for connection. Both ultimately advocate authenticity, just through different terrain.
The audiobook format proves ideal for this material. Relationship advice can feel clinical on the page, but hearing Hussey’s empathetic delivery makes the guidance feel personal. There’s a chapter about overcoming rejection that brought to mind my own travel setbacks – missed trains that led to unexpected villages, hostel rejections that resulted in better accommodations. Hussey frames romantic disappointments with similar wisdom, as detours rather than dead ends.
Technical quality is excellent throughout, with crisp audio that maintains warmth. The chapters are well-marked for easy reference, though I found the content compelling enough to listen straight through during that Andean journey. At just under four hours, it’s concise without feeling rushed – like a long coffee date with a remarkably perceptive friend.
As someone who’s documented love stories from Kyoto’s marriage markets to Brazilian samba clubs, I recognize universal truths when I hear them. Hussey taps into something fundamental about human connection that transcends dating manuals. This isn’t about tricks or manipulation; it’s about cultivating the kind of self-awareness and generosity that makes any relationship – romantic or otherwise – more meaningful.
By the time my bus reached Machu Picchu at sunrise, I’d listened twice. Not because I needed decoding strategies (though those are fascinating), but because Hussey’s narration captures something rare in any audiobook – the sense that you’re being genuinely seen and thoughtfully guided. That, I realized, is the secret at the heart of both great travel and great relationships: the courage to show up authentically, and the wisdom to appreciate the journey as much as the destination.
With curiosity for the road ahead,
Marcus Rivera
